Balance and Kids – Less Presents & More Presence – New Year Thrive Vibes

invest in kids or don't have them

The holiday season has flown by and we find ourselves in the New Year 2020. The kids are heading back to school in the aftermath of a two-week holiday respite.

It is presently January 2020 and oddly, it seemed like in August of last year, Halloween was being promoted everywhere and when Halloween came by, Christmas and holiday consumerism was well on the promotional circuit.

Not everyone celebrates Christmas and that is all kinds of okay as we embrace diversity and a person’s right to exercise their free will to dial in whatever culture and celebratory investments they make.

Our society, however, if you are existing in the western world, is geared towards the promotion of Christmas by way of massive promotional material, advertisements, deals and bonuses. Many people buy masses and masses of items to gift one another and then continue the abundance of indulgences through to Boxing Day.

The Spirit of Christmas is a beautiful thing. People being all loving and kind and giving gifts and spending time with their loved ones.

The business of Christmas, is a different matter altogether.

The parking lot craziness, the drones of people in masses, the sales clerks looking exhausted is a by product of the majority of society adhering to these practices and customs.

It is a consumers market for sure and people can get savage. Then just like that, the 25th comes and goes, the New Year energy is palpable and then we all settle back into another rotation around the sun.

When it comes to how we as conscious parents, invest in our children, it is important to remember the value of investment.

Investing in massive amounts of toys and electronics will make for very convenient and easy entertainment for young growing minds.

invest in your kids or don't have them

It is important, however, to balance all these gifts with an investment of time, space and attention.

The investment of your own time, your space and your attention to your children is pivotal to helping shape them into connected and thriving individuals.

Entitlement seems to be a growing trend amongst the young kids who are given screens upwards of several hours a day.

Our brains and our bodies are natural entities in this world.

Technological devices are made by us, humans, and it is wonderful and amazing and connects so many aspects of our humanity together.

It, however, is not a substitute for invested and dignified parenting.

I will not profess to have such a mindset that in this day and age of technology, it is reasonable to raise a child completely screen free, but again, with the insights we covered in our previous post here about the effects of the frequencies technology has on our cerebral development we, as adults and choosers of procreating life, would do well to heed balance when it comes to technology consumption, and anything, really.

balance is a gift so use it

Balance is the key to good living.

If you mimic nature, you will thrive in living.

Nature never wastes energy, everything is divinely timed, transformed and created.

You live in harmony with the universal laws in which we all share and it will shift your world to an elevated space.

Connection, Fluidity, Balance, Timelessness, Peace and Divine Energy.

Here are some fun creative happenings that occurred over the holiday break in our space that balanced out the rainy day movie vibes we were succumbing to with a little too much frequency.

They are economical, fun and have huge impact on the positive cerebral feels when your kids engage in tangible experiences.

Taking time to take the time is a massive investment into the human aspect of being connected and raising kids that you feel are people you genuinely respect, understand and know.

The best way in which to get to know the individual blueprint that is the unique combo of your child’s heart and mind is through tangible, somatic and shared experiences.

Walkie Talkies

There is no end to the fun that you can create with a child’s imagination and an economically priced old school device like the walkie talkie. For younger kids, they can hide in closets or if you live in a multi leveled house, they can go into different rooms and floors and just watch how much fun they seem to have and are able to occupy themselves with just by connecting your voices through a radio.

My dude is 8 and capable so we go on either sides of the street or down two paths separated by a light line of forest trees. It allows him to assert his independence but takes away the uncertainty factor that is still omnipresent with being an innocent child in this big world.

walkie talkie good vibesThe simple push of a button and some fun code words and names makes even going to the park a massive fun adventure. Kids love freedom and independence but need to feel secure and rooted to safety in the world.

Walkie Talkies are an awesome tool to engage in imaginative play and creative indoor and outdoor pursuits.


Pocket Change Treasure Hunt

I pulled out some change from my outdoor coat pocket and as I went to place it on the counter and I could feel the energy of my 8 year old becoming increasingly excitable, I had an inspired idea in the moment to put his brain to work.

I wrote four simple clues that were in riddle form for him to solve, once he solved the riddle, it would lead him to the next clue.

The final clue leads to a paper towel stapled into an enveloped with the pocket change inside.

That’s actually real treasure and a good find for the piggy bank as well as a solid and fun way to engage your little ones, screen free.

The motivation is the treasure.

It doesn’t have to be change either necessarily.

You can have the treasure be a love note or a favourite healthy treat or a book.

Cater the treasure to something that is simple for you to come upon and that would prove impact for the little one to whom you are having seek the treasure.

treasure hunt presentsLego Builds

I love Lego, and am a huge advocate for the investment and use of Lego.

I used it and played with it as a child and my son plays with it and makes the most epic Lego creations that are indicative of his unique and magnificently developing cerebral environment.

If Lego is too big an investment then there are plenty of faux Lego brands out there that are just as viable and rad to dial in. The key is to get a big one and then engage with your kids by building it together. Here are some rad builds that took a good amount of time over the holiday break.

After that time, your little one has a new toy they can engage in imaginative play and a deeper respect for its care given the investment they made in its creation. Also, for kids and adults alike, Lego is just super cool.

lego is not just for kids

Name that Creature

This is a fun and easy game to occupy your kids attention while outside.

Make a game of pointing out different animals and how many of them your child(ren) can find and label.

Squirrels, birds, ladybugs, spiders, dogs, cats, rats, mice, coyotes…there is a good amount of life existing in the natural world around us.

Having your kids connect to it consciously through the simple game such as this enables them to appreciate and acknowledge the creatures of this Earth in a respectful and engaging manner.

You can then get your kids to look up the animals when they get home and write out some fun facts they can learn about these animals that come into their experience.

creature explorations

Mini FoosBall Table

This has been a big score and for a very little investment .

I found a sale item on at Indigo for a twenty spot and the mini Foosball is a fun way to elicit giggles and enhance the relationship between you and your little one(s).

Not to mention the proprioception win you gain by having to move and coordinate the players to strike the ball as well as defend your own net.

The hand-eye coordination vibe is much more tangibly experienced and engaged than that of an onscreen game.

foosball fun is all kinds of good feels

Bean Bag Carnival Throwing Game

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This game was gifted to my son and it is a mini version of the big bean bag throwing games you see at carnivals….and it is just as elusively won as those found at the carnivals…lol.

It is a solid way to engage your child and throw in a bag of balloons and keep your 8 year old occupied with setting up his very own carnival stand.

You can even create tickets and fake currency to exchange and invite family members to come in to the carnival and play a game.

I have one kid and can dial this in with myself and my partner, but if you are a single parent, then stuffies and play dates can be a good vibe as make believe participants.

Deck of Cards House Builds

There is nothing more rewarding than building a multi level structure out of playing cards and sitting back to acknowledge your lofty achievement to then sigh too heavily and have it all topple down in front of you.

This is a great tool to connect children to their perseverance and emotional regulation.

This activity takes focus, patience and concentration and definitely hones in on these attributes of a growing and developing human being.

fun card house builds

Pull Back Floor Car Races

I did this with my guy when I needed to entertain him at the airport at three years old and it still worked on our last trip at eight years old.

Metal pull back cars are a simple and easy way to have lots of fun and keep a child occupied for a good amount of time as well as work their energetic systems by having them run and retrieve the runaway cars.

Imagination is a wonderful tool we all have at our disposal.

To use it to engage with a young human, need not a bunch of bells and whistles. Time, space, attention and a hint of creativity and you pull back car funBeing a predominantly screen free child, my little guy can occupy his imagination with amazing and wonderful ideas and creations. Imaginative play is pivotal to healthy brain development.

Become child like and be silly. Immerse yourself in your child’s world with your presence and you see how much more return you get on the investment of that in relationship and outcomes.

Presence More Than Presents.

The presence is the present moments you have to share. Your kids will not be kids forever, so enjoy them and invest in them while they are growing as it you gain too in your own growth by doing so.

The gift of connected invested time space and attention from their biggest influence and creator, really, is one that cannot be bought with money.

Dial it in to the degree you do the gifts, is all that is encouraged here.

A balance of your invested time space and attention into the relationship with your little human(s) yields a more expanded heart space for all parties involved as well as nourishing the fabric of your little ones senses of selves and worth.

Adults are always very busy and occupied when it comes to the children that are perceiving them. To be an unoccupied and fully attentive guardian is a highly underestimated and supremely impactful approach to optimizing the psychology and physiology of the person whom you are guiding and raising. For a child to know who their parents are by way of sharing in experiences with them, is a gift that cannot be bought. It is an investment that pays exponentially in dividends on so many levels.

As you navigate your parenting through the ever modern new year we all find ourselves within, cultivable the awareness that the value of presence is priceless and a conscious invested parenting thrive vibe.

Be silly and have some fun.

It is 2020!!

The year of clear vision!

9 thoughts on “Balance and Kids – Less Presents & More Presence – New Year Thrive Vibes

  1. Less presents and more presence, outstanding advice! Time is precious and it is best spent on doing things with kids rather than buying them things. They will appreciate time spent more than money spent when it really comes down to it. Material things are like a sugar high when you think about it. I totally agree with the idea of the business of Christmas. Maybe it’s what Christ died for? Balance is so important and I love the walkie talkie ides as well. Great post and I’m looking forward to reading more!

  2. Hi,

    I remember growing up as a kid. My parents couldn’t afford expensive gifts for my birthday or Christmas, but they always gave me something. I’m not going to lie and say I was never disappointed, but now as an adult, I look back on those days and I thank my parents for their efforts. They made it to me with their time and love. Less presents, more presence…just like you wrote above.

    Our society has become too materialistic. Now it’s all about the newest cellphone, the newest tablet, the newest videogame, etc. For many people it’s easier to buy that for their kids and not worry about spending time with them. It’s a real pity.

    Thank you for writing this up. I will be sharing it with my friends.

    1. Hi Enrique!

      It is beautiful you can reflect back and acknowledge the good efforts of your parents.

      Thank you for your comment!

      Bex

  3. I like the ideas you present in this article (no pun intended, ok maybe). Doing hide and seek and other activities with walkie talkies would be a fun way to spend time with your kids. I think that if you trained them to want to do these activities instead of ask for presents they would be happier.

  4. Thanks a lot for such an amazing review about Balance and Kids and explanations are given.

    I have an 8 year old child and I try to balance everything in his life: learning, playing, gifts in general, all I can. These things are very important in a child’s life. A very useful article that is useful to us new parents.

    Thanks again and keep in touch.

  5. I have to acknowledge first of all, what great job you’ve done here.

    Indeed, being present in the developmental stage of the little ones is an essential parenting obligation. Of course, the presents are always welcomed but should never be a substitute for being there for them in person and also engage them with one or more of the games you listed above.

    I personally enjoy the Foosball game and I have no doubt kids would love it. I find the walkie-talkie interesting though it never crossed my mind. 

    I am glad to have found this. Thanks for sharing

  6. Wow! What a good article. I agree with what you write that as parents we are often busy. So that we do not maintain a balance of our invested time and attention into the relationship with our children. Therefore, the idea that you recommend to be able to play to show our presence with them is highly appreciated.
    I admit that often because of the busyness I have, I don’t spend much time on my kids. In fact, every time I go home, they have been waiting and excitedly welcomed me at the front door of the house. However, sometimes because we feel tired, we ignore them. If I put myself into them, surely I will feel hurt because of such treatment.
    That way, I think I will buy them a present tomorrow to make them feel my presence as their parents. I also promise to spend enough time starting today.
    Once again, thank you very much for the article that made me realize that “My kids will not be kids forever”. Thanks

  7. Ahhhhh…  Reading your article was like a walk down memory lane!  It’s amazing to realize how many years Lego has endured.  I had a big set as a kid and each time my mom would buy a small add on as a gift, the whole lot would come out to create something completely different.  I played with Lego until I hit my teens.  Walkie talkies, too!  The best present you can give your child is the present of your time!

    1. Hi Ferochadan!

      I am super appreciative of your vibrant and resonant comment.  Lego really is a wonderful dial in.

      Thank you for sharing your experience and your kind and supportive comment!

      -Bex

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