This comes as a post to support the little people in our world and is a sister post to our friends over at www.thegoodvibelife.com
How you speak to your kids plays a pivotal role in their overall mental, physical and spiritual health.
Human systems work optimally with a well-balanced diet, a good and consistent amount of exercise and of course, the nurturing and implementation of LOVE.
Expressing love can come in many forms. Some healthy, some not so much, but essentially, as little human beings, state of being is boss when it comes thriving and the best way you can get a child to thrive is by connecting to that child with a whole lotta:
One way in which true unconditional love can be conveyed to your little bundles of joy are through words and the language that you use when you address and speak to your child(ren).
Things to Keep in Mind when the words roll out of your mouth and into the heads and hearts of your children.
1. They Are Just Little Children and They Need LOVE.
Sometimes life is so busy and things are so crazy that you can forget that the little people you are guiding are indeed, just little people.
It is important not to ever diminish a child – even in jest, if they are not yet wise enough to understand sarcasm. The words that children hear in reference to themselves spoken by their care takers and primary influencers are the ones that shape their relationship to themselves, to nurturing the heart, their perception of closeness and connectivity.
Language is powerful.
Although they are little, they are of the purest kind of energy.
This energy can sometimes leave you feeling depleted and as a parent, when you give and give and give, it can sometimes seem overwhelming, especially when the investment of your energy seems never ending.
Welcome to being responsible for another human beings life!
A great tip to abide by is that no matter how depleted you feel or how stretched your day has been, keeping the fundamental outlook that they are just little and they need love at the forefront of your mind and emanating from your heart centre is a very good feel in terms of keeping your state of regulation in check…which is number
2. Your State of Being.
This one isn’t about your children’s behaviour, but of yours and it is an aspect of yourself that impacts them to a great degree.
Your state of being is boss in terms of how you display yourself and distill your wisdom down to your kids.
This is one of the most subtle, yet powerful ways we influence children is through the display of our own behaviour and the manner in which, we ourselves, respond to the world around us.
Our kids learn from us by watching who we are. It would be of good value, then, to take good care of ourselves and our state of regulation to ensure we are modeling an ideal version of ourselves.
When a child sees a parent offering respect, nurturing and kindness to oneself, then they ultimately download within themselves this as a method in which to govern themselves.
Kids will emulate the parent/guardian that they have the most exposure to – this can be a nanny, a teacher, a video game, a television show, or ideally, one on one, eye to eye, heart-to-heart present moment awareness with one or both parents.
3. Understanding Their Development & Age Appropriate Expectations.
This one can be really empowering in terms of reducing frustration and knowing what you can expect from the little people you created and are now guiding through childhood.
It can be mind numbing to repeat something to a child only to be met with the child either doing exactly what you asked them not to and proving especially uncooperative in moments when you need them to be.
If you are able to regulate and be chill, these moments are excellent teaching opportunities and offer an opportunity for you to connect and provide empowerment to your kids with what you already know.
My son asks a ton of questions and is curious about everything. It proves quite refreshing to explain the reason things are what they are and whey they exist for us to use in our everyday life.
Kids are sponges.
They are literally having a life exploration unfolding and it is our jobs to guide them and show them as much stuff as is humanly possible so that they may explore aspects of themselves and uncover what the world around them.
Leaving an extra 15 minutes at the onset of any directed intention or activity you have delineated with your child(ren) will allow for those moments to happen rather than being rushed and unable to engage fully and presently with your child and their inherent sense of wonder and discovery.
4. See The World From Their Perspective
Do you remember what it was like to be a kid?
The many circumstances in which you find yourself gliding through reality not really understanding or knowing in the Mind what the deal is, but just coasting with the feels of discovery and wonder the vibe of the Heart emanates?
That’s the vibe all of us adults would do well to harness and nurture in the lives of our children.
So, in a nutshell – Kids need love.
They are just being kids.
Enjoy these beauties and look at the world through their lenses. Be super mindful about the language you use and the tone in which you use it. Immense power to transform a child’s life, is how we speak to them.
Let it be with compassion, love and sweet, empowering words.
It will yield immensely empowering and fulfilling results for everyone involved.