Three C’s of Resilience – Intel to Support Your Child’s Thrive
As a parent, and perhaps too an adult with an unhealed inner child, these 3 aspects of yours and your child’s awareness proves a thrive for gaining and implementing a successful model of state of condition of which you can be knowledgeable about to add more thrive to your life game.
These topics are all words that begin with the letter C and are interdependent in their implementation.
They are listed as follows:
Their interdependence creates a domino chain of cause and effect.
To gain competence, one needs confidance. To gain confidance to gain competence, connection is needed. In order to contribute to themselves and others, there needs to be a foundation of good character which is only taught and learned through connection.
When one contributes with good character, they gain competence and confidance that enables them to cope with life’s challenges. In these aptitudes of self governance comes self control and control of themsevles in their environment (and not compelling control over others)
Being Able Bodied And Aware of These Humanity Resilience Topics is a Very Goodvibe.
Experience is your best teacher. To gain competence in anything, having experientially knowledge is where the rubber meets the road.
Theory and information can be absorbed by the brain and understood, but becoming competent in any endeavour requires an engagement of the entirety of the cognitive psychology which comes with actual EXPERIENCE.
To become competent and to emulate the aquirement of competence a skill set needs developing in order for a child to gain trust in their own judgments, make responsible decisions and face difficult situations.
TIPS ON DEVELOPING AND EMULATING COMPETENCE
– Focus on your child’s strengths and build on them.
– Focus on what your child does well, rather than point out their mistakes.
– When your child makes mistakes then observe what they do well despite their errors.
– Affirm the good that your child has going on in their world.
– Emulate and demonstrate social, educational and stress management skills that enable your children to feel competent in facing them themselves. How you behave is more of a teacher than the words you speak.
– Speak to and not down to your child. Make sure how you speak to your child is in a language and context that is understandable to their level of consciousness.
– Allow your children to make mistakes and self correct them without your involvement. When you yourself make mistakes in the observation of your child(ren) demonstrate ownership and responsibility over rectifying your mistakes with maturity.
– Allow your children the freedom to have experiences that enable them to learn and make mistakes. The helicopter control vibe is a low vibe and subtly suggests you do not trust them to have their own experience and handling it, thus diminishing their aptitude of competence in the world. Check yourself to see where you may be bleeding your own ownership to need or want to be so controlling over the movements and experience of your child(ren).
– Acknowledge your child fully in their own autonomous experience, even if it differs from your way of being in the world.
With knowledgeable experience comes confidence in one’s own abilities to understand and navigate the world in which they live and the life force they compel.
The solid belief in one’s own ability is rooted in competence.
By demonstrations of competence in real life situations, children can develop confidence.
Children who express and handle themselves competently in a safe and protected guardianship develop a deep seated security that promotes the confidance and knowledge that they are self equipped to deal with life’s challenges.
When you mirror to a child their own levels of competence and building on EXPERIENCES to gain their own aptitude of self confidence, then they begin to trust in themselves and their own abilities to make good choices for themselves.
TIPS ON DEVELOPING AND EMULATING CONFIDENCE
Ask yourself and be brave enough to be honest with the truth of your own behaviour – Do you see the best or the worst in your child when you put your attention upon them?
Do you point out what they do right or do you point out what they do wrong to try and get them to do things the “right” way.
Letting your child enable themselves with ENCOURAGEMENT vs DISDAIN are two very different confidence builiding/depleting strategies.
Emanating an aptitude of awareness to your child that is aligned with who they are and not what they do. Development and EXPOSITIONAL MODELLING of behaviours such as fairness, integrity and kindness. This means that when your child does something that is misaligned in any way, you are not punitive or reproachful , but understanding and guiding instead. Situations last but a mere moment in time. Your child’s sense of confidence and worth will last a lifetime. Keeping the bigger picture of your child’s experience in mind can enable you to be more chill when they are engaging in behaviours or actions that are not a thrive.
This kinds of qualities are aligned with the natural order of lifeforce so to engage them in your beingness and emulating them experientially is the most effective method to teach confidence.
Catch your children being good and kind and generous. Acknowledge to them these traits they exhibit.
Being realistic about your expectations you put upon your child. They are not here to fulfill your unfulfilled desires, hopes and dreams. They are their own person with their own purpose.
Let them be who they are and encourage them there fully.
Remind your child(ren) of their capabilities even when they need corrective guidance. Punishment and criticism are destructive forces.
Encouragment and acknowledgement are propulsion forces. What kind of propulsion are you emanating when dealing with your offspring? Are you yourself confidant in your own self to be able to emulate such traits? Avoid distilling any kind of shame or criticism. These may seem rational in the moment but they are highly irrational to a child’s sense of safety and growth.
We as humans with our own energy of action, thought, feeling and language are naturally made for connectivity. The natural order forces of unconditional love and life renewability are fundamental structures to LIFE itself We as humans compel a life we are gifted.
To deny our connetivity to ourselves and one another is a highly unnatural and destructive aptitude of governance that leads to separateness and incongruence.
Children who have close ties to family, friends, school and their community are more likely to have a solid sense of security. This in turn, produces stronger values and perpetuates behaviours of connectiivity rather than ones of destruction in terms of seeking love and support.
Ancestral and family bonds are a fundamental guiding force and influential energy in a child’s experience.
No matter the dynamics, the connection a child receives is directly correlated to how the child will yield their own worth and value of connectivity in their own life force.
Connections to civic, educational, spiritual and atheletic arenas of life can increase any humans sense of belonging in the world. Autonomy is key in terms of enabling your own child’s expression of specific connectivity and then within that autonomy, branching out and resonating with mutually rewarding connective engagements (as just listed above)
INQUIRIES ON DEVELOPING AND EMULATING CONNECTION
Do you communicate to your child their value of them to you? Do they know they are appreciated and valued by you by way of your words and actions towards them?
Do you enable the expression of emotional energy, no matter the polarity of its content or do you scorn or diminish emotions of a lower nature?
Being able to demonstrate acceptance for all states of emotion that encompass a child and letting them know it is okay for them to feel ALL their emotions, enables a natural connectivity that suppression or avoidance suppresses.
Do you resolve conflict in a healthy and mature manner in your household? What kind of communicative connectivity are you emulating by way of your own self governance and management. Children learn the most by watching what you do.
Is there time, space and attention shared amongst the members of the family, offline?
Do you foster healthy relationships for yourself and that of your child(ren)?
Kids develop thier abilities for how they shape their character and contribute to society as well as cope and master their own control.
A healthy emulation of these human parts of your childs experience can prove to be a thrive vibe for their trajectory in handling life. You as a parent are too, a human who was once a child.
The commonalities you share with the humanity of your child(ren) are investments worthy noting and developing.